The other day, I met one of the most joyful women I’ve ever met.

I went to the post office to ship out some packages. The lady behind the desk was probably in her mid-forties.

She had a big smile. Told me how much she loved Christmas. She didn’t complain that I had a pain-in-the-butt mailing job. She seemed to genuinely enjoy her work. She was simply happy to be alive.

Her pure sense of joy made her look like a genuinely beautiful woman. It’s such a rare thing to see nowadays.

Now, as a 27-year old man, it’s difficult to for me to assess the sexual attractiveness of a middle-age woman. It’s just not on my radar.

But I thought if my wife had that kind of joy when we became old, I don’t think it would matter so much that her body ages and loses some of it’s surface-level beauty. I would still be a happy man.

It reminded me of the following well-known verse:

Your adornment must not be merely external– braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God.

-1 Peter 3:3-4

As husbands, we should cultivate this inner beauty in our wives. This doesn’t mean to quit being “shallow” and imagine she has inner beauty that isn’t really there. It means that you shape her inner character to your liking.

To put it another way:

Having a wife who wants to be pleasant and dress sexy for you is far more valuable than a wife who simply looks sexy.

This is how a husband loves his wife. This is how a woman finds inner peace and happiness. This is what is precious in the sight of God.