Today’s sexual Christian man faces a double challenge:
First, he must reclaim his balls from the matriarchy.
Second, he must teach his wife how to respond sexually to a man.
Neither of these tasks are easy. Both will probably be the most difficult challenges of your life.
Though it won’t make your task easier per se, it might be encouraging to know that it’s not your fault. Marriage was never intended to be this difficult.
God’s design is that older women should teach the younger women how to please their husbands:
Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored. (Titus 2:3-5)
Our mothers and grandmothers have dishonored the word of God by neglecting to teach their daughters to love their husbands. Instead, they taught their daughters to be independent from man. And they taught their sons to be the neutered “nice guy” who supplicates women.
And our fathers and grandfathers have dishonored the word of God by allowing their wives to plant the seeds of feminist rebellion and emasculation right under their own roofs.
Nevertheless, a godly man cannot continue to dishonor God. We should strive to be the righteous son that God praises in Ezekiel 18:
Now behold, he has a son who has observed all his father’s sins which he committed, and observing does not do likewise.
Yes, marriage is difficult. And most of it is not our fault. We followed the script and did what we were told. Sexual frustration and marital strife is the fruit of the so-called “wisdom” we’ve received.
But we should not become embittered. This is the test of our faith. As James says:
Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.
Day by day, you persevere.
Little by little, you become a better man.
And one day, you may find that you have at last subdued your wife and restored happiness to the bedroom.
This is your trial, the test of your faith.
If you can persevere in a modern marriage, your faith will be made perfect and you will earn the crown of life.