Let’s talk about “man crushes” today… in a completely heterosexual way.
One of the limitations I’ve noticed of red pill blogs is that the prescriptions rarely take a man’s personality into account. Sure, we can all agree that Donald Trump is a super-alpha, but is it really practical for every reader to try to imitate him?
Donald Trump is who he is… partly because of his work ethic… but also partly because of his natural personality. I could never be like Trump no matter how hard I worked.
This is why I think it’s useful to learn frame and game by studying men that are suitable for one’s own personality.
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The most useful personality system I’ve found is the Myers-Briggs typology. I’ve studied this system on-and-off over the years and my opinion of it has varied from thinking it was fascinating to thinking it was deeply flawed. Now I realize the problem isn’t the system itself, but rather how it’s typically used.
First off, the letters you’re probably familiar with, such as the ESFJ or the INTP, are misleading. They are just the shorthand and are rather misleading to those uninitiated to the underlying functions.
One of the biggest errors people make is they assume someone is either extroverted or introverted. But the reality is that everyone has both extroverted and introverted functions. An extrovert is simply someone who uses their extroverted functions more frequently than their introverted functions, and vice versa for introverts. This is why you can have an introvert being outgoing in a social setting or an extrovert who is perfectly content doing solitary activities.
It’s also worth noting that “extroversion” refers to how you interact with any part of the external world, not just people.
Another error people make, that is encouraged by the shorthand version, is they assume that people are either “judgers” (i.e. making decisions and getting things done) or “perceivers” (i.e. exploring new ideas and possibilities). Just as with the extrovert-introvert dynamic, this is also a misunderstanding. Every person has cognitive functions for both making decisions and exploring new ideas.
The other limitation of the shorthand typing system is that it only describes people’s as they are not who they are becoming. Every person has dominant functions that he uses naturally, and weaker functions which he wishes to develop. When people are young and not fully mature, they tend to be attracted to a mate who is the mirror image of themselves (i.e. their dominant functions are your weak functions, and vice versa.) (Interesting read on that by Pat Stedman here.)
Anyhow, none of these nuances are reflected in the 4-letter typing system. The more accurate system works like this:
Each person has 4 modes of cognitive functioning, two “judging” and two “perceiving” modes. And each of these modes is paired with an extroverted or introverted function. So there are 4 possible perceptive functions:
- Extroverted-Intuition (Ne) – The Brainstormer. Generates new possibilities, synthesizes abstract ideas and picks up on cues in the external environment.
- Introverted-Intuition (Ni) – The Theorist. Uses mental models to understand and analyze the world and anticipate future events. Perceptive of inconsistencies and always adapting their models.
- Extroverted-Sensing (Se) – The Life of the Party. Takes in the world as it exists in the moment. Highly in tune with the sights, smells, sounds, and other physical stimulus around them.
- Introverted-Sensing (Si) – The Observer. Takes notes of facts and events exactly as they happen and categorizes them. Like an internal filing system.
Each person has two of the above. One extroverted and one introverted.
Likewise, there are 4 possible decision-making functions. Each person has one extroverted and one introverted decision-making function function:
- Introverted-Feeling (Fi) – The Creative. Reflects deeply on how one feels and what is right or wrong. Searches for the deeper meaning behind everything. Artistic and creative endeavors are a natural outlet.
- Extroverted-Feeling (Fe) – The Peacekeeper. Concerned with maintaining social norms and keeping the peace. Strives to do what is best for the group.
- Extroverted-Thinking (Te) – The Manager. Seeks to impose order on the external environment as efficiently and logically as possible. Values productivity and results.
- Introverted-Thinking (Ti) – The Scientist. Seeks to form a framework on how the world works on a concrete, tangible level. Naturally notices inconsistencies and loves to take things apart to see how they work.
Once you identify your strongest function from each group and then your weaker (i.e. your second choice) from each group, then you can accurately identify your personality type with the four-letter system:
If you’d like to learn more about this, there’s as an excellent article written by Heidi Priebe over at Thought Catalog.
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The great thing about the Myers-Briggs system is that there are helpful nerds all around the internet who have spent hours arguing about and classifying famous people by their personality types.
So… think about that.
Nowadays, no one can become famous unless they know how to present themselves well. They have to dress and groom well. They have to speak confidently. They’re looked up to as leaders.
In other words, celebrities have everything women want.
And there are celebrities that are the same personality type as you. This means you can model yourself (how you speak, how you dress, how you control the frame etc.) after someone who probably already share some of the mannerisms with.
It doesn’t matter if you personally like the celebrity or agree with what they stand for. We’re just looking for men with high sex appeal whom we can model ourselves after. It’s easy to admire high-SMV men. But we want to model ourselves after high-SMV men that we have a realistic shot at authentically emulating.
So, courtesy of 16Personalities.com, here are some ideas to get you started.
- Christopher Nolan
- Colon Powell
- Elon Musk
- Arnold Schwarzenegger
- Vladimir Putin
- Bill Gates
- Stanley Crouch
- Steve Jobs
- Gordon Ramsay
- Harrison Ford
- Jim Carry
- David Petraeus
- “Weird Al” Yankovich
- Adam Savage
- Tom Hanks
- Sacha Baron Cohen
- Martin Luther King, Jr.
- Nelson Mandela
- Jimmy Carter
- Morgan Freeman
- Johnny Depp
- Tom Hiddleston
- Barack Obama
- John Cusack
- Ben Affleck
- Sean Connery
- Robert Downey, Jr.
- Will Smith
- Robin Williams
- Russell Brand
- Quentin Tarantino
- Denzel Washington
- Anthony Hopkins
- George H.W. Bush
- Vin Diesel
- Lance Reddick
- Frank Sinatra
- Lyndon B. Johnson
- Bill Clinton
- Steve Harvey
- Danny Glover
- Clint Eastwood
- Bear Grylls
- Tom Cruise
- Michael Jordan
- Daniel Craig
- Kevin Costner
- Michael Jackson
- Jack Nicholson
- Eddie Murphy
- Bruce Willis
- Michael J. Fox
- Nicolas Sarkozy
- Samuel L. Jackson
- Jamie Oliver
- Jamie Foxx
- Adam Levine
- Steve Irwin
I’m guessing that none of the men listed above have (had) any trouble getting laid. Find your personality type and then start studying interviews of those celebrities on YouTube. Pay attention to how they speak, how they control the frame, how they dress, how they present themselves. They became famous for a reason.
Imitate what you like. It will probably work for you.