The Secret Life of a Woman’s Brain

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

NOTE: This is a summary & red pill application of the book Incognito, an excellent primer on how the human brain works.

This week I read a fascinating book about the subconscious mind.

This is a topic that I think many Christians are woefully ignorant of. Probably due to it’s negative association with Freud.

But advertisers, propagandists, and even the more intelligent teachers have known (at least through practice) about this stuff for decades. And now it is confirmed by recent neurological findings.

So if you’re not familiar with this stuff, buckle up and get ready for a mind trip…

I’ve summarized the big ideas below along with some application ideas for a red pill marriage.

Conscious thought is like the “national headlines” of a vast and complex economy.

Conscious thought is just the tip of the iceberg. If you truly want to help your wife change, you have to be aware of this vast economy of brain activity that she’s not even aware of.

We see what we expect to see

Take a look at the famous illusion below:

Do you see a glass… or two faces?

It depends on what you expect to see.

Your wife does not see things objectively (and neither do you). We see what we’ve been primed to see. This is why frame is everything. Changing the frame is the root of deception. Recovering the biblical frame is the key to freedom.

The brain pays attention to unexpected information

The brain attempts to construct a mental model of reality that will accurately predict what will happen next. So long as we can fit the facts into our model, our brain assumes everything is fine. But our brains pay extra close attention to mistakes (i.e. things that “don’t compute.”)

So if you want to change your wife’s mind, don’t communicate in ways that can be easily explained away (such as abstract rational arguments.) Use paradoxes. Make her feel confused. Show her examples that contradict her present beliefs. Even if she experiences some “cognitive dissonance” for a time, her brain will be forced to reconstruct her mental models.

The brain can learn complex, even inexplicable tasks with nothing more than “yes” or “no” feedback

Don’t worry about trying to explicitly explain how you want your wife to behave. Simply show signs of approval when she’s “good” and disapproval when she’s “bad.” Her subconscious mind will figure out the rest.

We are attracted to things and people that remind us of ourselves.

When conscious communication is necessary, always talk about ideas in terms of her interests. How is it going to make her more beautiful? More intelligent? A better mother? A better lover? etc.

People are more likely to believe and like what they’ve been exposed to before… even if they’re unaware of that exposure

If there’s something you want to do that would seem batsh*t crazy to her current worldview, “prime” her mind for a while so she’s exposed to the idea in indirect ways.

For example, if you want to live on a homestead and she’s a city girl, watch movies that incorporate rural settings. Get a painting of a beautiful rural landscape. Go to the fair and look at the animals. Start watching Little House on the Prairie when she’s around even if she’s not (initially) interested.

Even if her initial reaction is negative, the more exposure she has, the more she’ll warm up to the idea.

We get “gut feelings” about the right or wrong decision before we consciously decide

Hence the limited utility of reason in persuasion. She’s already made up her mind before you even talk. Reason is useful for helping people believe what they want to believe or for having discussions where intellectual curiosity is the frame. Don’t waste your time trying to reason with a woman under any other circumstances.

The conscious mind sets the goals… the subconscious mind learns how to meet them

One critical task of the husband is to set goals for his wife. Give her the why, the how, and the what (in that order.) If you don’t know how to communicate a vision, watch this.

Instincts do not need to be learned. They run so efficiently that we are not consciously aware of them

Women are not aware of their sexual instincts and their conscious thoughts will even contradict what her instincts want.

To put into to terms closer to home, you do not talk your wife into giving you blowjobs. You just put it front of her face, pull down her head, and let her instincts kick in.

The brain runs on multiple competing programs

Your wife’s brain is in a constant state of tension. She wants to have sex but doesn’t want to be slutty…yet she likes it when you call her one… yet it makes her feel dirty… yet she likes being a dirty girl… but is that a sin?… she doesn’t want to be bad… and yet if she’s bad, she might as well have fun… I DON’T KNOW, SOMEBODY SAVE ME FROM MYSELF!!!

Men are better at sorting out the brain’s conflicting programs than women. This is why she craves for you to make the decision for her. Always assume that she has several conflicting motives and desperately needs you to make a confident decision about what’s happening next.

The context determines whether people respond emotionally or rationally

Would you allow a train to run over one man for the sake of saving five men from getting ran over? Yes?

Would you deliberately push a fat man out of a boat to save the rest of the crew from sinking?

The net result is the same, but when it becomes personal, we make decisions based on emotion. The human brain cannot simultaneously hold a detached rational perspective and a personal emotional perspective at the same time.

As a husband, you need to be aware which frame is more advantageous for the situation. If she’s upset and feels like the current trial is too great to bear, a rational perspective is more helpful. But if she’s in a private investigator mode and demanding you reveal incriminating details (in her eyes), you’ll want to switch it to a personal frame as quickly as possible.

The rewards closer to now or more valued than those in the distant future

Many people think that those who work hard are sacrificing present pleasure for the sake of future gain. But that’s not how the brain works. The brain always maximizes present pleasure… whether that’s sensual pleasure or the pleasure of doing the wise thing or the pleasure of doing what others expect of you.

Distant rewards will not motivate. How can you make the present enjoyable? Or what false assumptions are preventing her from enjoying the present?

We can be easily convinced to give up control in exchange for protection against our future selves

Why do people allow the government to hold onto the money until tax returns? Why do we allow other people to manage our money? Why do people sign up for apps that will shame them on social media if they don’t do their habits?

It’s because we instinctively know that, at some point, we will do something stupid or lazy if left on our own.

Thus we prefer (or can be easily convinced) to give up some control to someone who can prevent us from making bad decisions.

This makes a good starting point for talking about submission. You are not asking her to submit because you want to hold her down. You’re asking her to submit because, as she knows, when she’s caught up in her emotions, she can make decisions that will hurt herself. Position yourself as the responsible adult that can protect her from her future self.

Our brain always invents stories to explain what we observe… often times, these stories are wrong

Something happens. She invents a story to explain it. But she’s not confident in her interpretation. You come in with a confident frame and “mansplain” what’s going on. She now believes your interpretation.

Secrets are unhealthy for the brain to conceal; they need to be released

A secret is essentially a perpetual mental state of holding two conflicting motivations: the desire to share what’s on the mind vs. aversion to sharing due to fear of hurting someone or being ostracized.

The husband can provide a non-judgmental context for his wife to confess her secrets. In many cases, he may need to probe and draw out the secrets. This is analogous to how God wants us to offer up our anxieties to him through prayer.

Simply saying aloud what’s going on in her head will free up mental energy to focus on more important things.

On the flip side, you can plant “secrets” into her head that can only be resolved by having sex. This is the foundation of erotic tension.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Secret Thoughts of a Desperate Housewife

One of the great things about the internet is it allows a savvy user to practically read the minds of people you wish to influence.

Case in point:

There is an online forum over at Grace Centered called “Christian Women Sexual Topics.”

Here are some of the most popular questions that Christian wives are privately wondering:

  1. Is using birth control and condoms inside of marriage a sin?
  2. Is masturbation a sin?
  3. Is it a sin to have an erotic dream involving another man?
  4. Can’t enjoy sex…
  5. Is it a sin to have sexual thoughts about someone other than my husband?
  6. Is it wrong to enjoy reading erotica?
  7. How can I deal with lusting after hot guys?
  8. I feel guilty because I privately fantasize about being raped…
  9. Need prayer to heal from the past…
  10. I have issues with attraction and fantasies towards women…

Notice that most of the topics are variations of “is this a sin?” A woman cannot focus on pleasing her husband when her conscience is guilty.

It is psychologically damaging to hold in guilty secrets. If your wife has aversions to or anxiety about sex, there’s a good chance unaddressed guilty thoughts are at the root.

As her husband, you can take the initiative and get these topics out in the open. You don’t need to “solve” the problem. Just show her how God’s word is not as restrictive as she was led to believe.

Alleviate her guilty conscience by drawing a clear line between what is good and what is sin. Do not be afraid emphasize the boundaries that God clearly commanded. But also remember the most important principle of interpreting the Bible:

Do not add to His words
Or He will reprove you, and you will be proved a liar.

Sexual Desire vs. Lust

There’s a great post over at the Red Pill Christians Reddit on distinguishing between healthy sexual desire and lust.

Biblically, the idea of coveting is not merely any old desire. It’s an I would if I could mentality. If you see your neighbor’s cow and think, “If I knew I wouldn’t get caught, I’d totally steal his cow!” that’s coveting. If you see it and think, “Dang, that’s a great cow. I wish I had a cow like that. But I don’t … oh well.” That’s not coveting. That’s desire.

Desire is healthy. Coveting is not. It’s really that simple. If we were to stifle all of our desires and pretend we never wanted anything that anyone else has, we would totally lack all ambition in life and fail as a species. Paul saying things like, “Run in such a way to win the prize!” (1 Cor. 9:24) makes no sense if we’re not allowed to desire something we don’t yet have.

The author goes on to define a helpful rule-of-thumb for judging whether you’re lusting:

  1. Is the object of your desire not your spouse?
  2. If there were no earthly hindrances to gratifying yourself with the object of your desire, would you do it?

If the answer to both questions is yes, then it’s sinful lust. If the answer to either question is no, then it’s not sinful.

The only thing that holds someone with a covetous heart back from defrauding his neighbor is external pressures such as the force of law or social consequences. This is why Jesus bluntly called out the Pharisees in Matthew 5. Just because they weren’t breaking the law, they harbored a “would-if-I-could” attitude in their hearts.

While I can’t peer into the heart of other Christian men, I’d guess that the typical man is not guilty of biblical lust. Rather, he has allowed his conscience to be bound to false teachings which blaspheme God’s good creation (the male sexual instincts.)

Or, to paraphrase my old college professor, if you are worried whether you are lusting, the warning is not intended for you. If you immediately think you’re righteous and have nothing to worry about, take heed.

 

The Cost of Settling for Bad Sex

A cautionary tale for red pill married men…

MJ Davis over at Doing Marriage Right has written a superb fictional essay on the sexual frustrations of modern married men.

It’s okay if your sex life is like this today. But don’t get used to it.

The difference between the “Nice Guy” and the Alpha Husband is that alphas don’t settle for bad sex.

Consider this a wake up call.

Full story here:

https://doing-marriage-right.com/2018/01/25/this-is-saturday/

And Now a Word from Disney…

Given my apparent theme lately of Satanic deception and sexual suppression, it seemed fitting to wrap the week up with a lesson from Disney.

The other week, there was some discussion in the manosphere over the Satanic nature of the song “Let It Go” from Frozen.

I would agree that the lyrics are Satanic (at least when they stand alone). But the lyrics also provide a perfect perspective on the inner thoughts of a woman as she is being deceived.

So let’s consider the following lyrics and try to become “wise as serpents” in our dealing with our wives and daughters:

The snow glows white on the mountain tonight
Not a footprint to be seen.
A kingdom of isolation,
and it looks like I’m the Queen
She feels like her responsibility is forcing her to be isolated from relationships with others. Like any girl, she is curious about the world and wants adventure. But she feels trapped.
The wind is howling like this swirling storm inside
Couldn’t keep it in;
Heaven knows I’ve tried
Her inner (sexual?) passions are too much to contain. She feels that she can’t “keep it in.”
Don’t let them in,
don’t let them see
Be the good girl you always have to be
Being “good” and her inner passions are placed at odds with each other. She now feels like she is “bad” and cannot let loved ones get too close to her. Being “good” becomes a heavy burden.
Conceal, don’t feel,
don’t let them know
It is her passions that make her “bad.” The message she perceives is that she must conceal these passions. Don’t let anyone know how bad she is.
Well now they know
Let it go, let it go
Can’t hold it back anymore
Let it go, let it go
After having her epiphany that her passion is too much of a burden to hold in, she finds a new sense of liberation in letting it go.
Turn away and slam the door
I don’t care
what they’re going to say
Now that’s she’s made her decision to “let it go”, she reaffirms her decision by burning her bridges. They don’t understand. She doesn’t need them.
Let the storm rage on.
Her conclusive cry of “liberation.”
The cold never bothered me anyway
Sure, there’s a down side, but it’s not that bad…
It’s funny how some distance
Makes everything seem small
And the fears that once controlled me
Can’t get to me at all
She is uncertain about her decision so she needs further justification. Compared living in fear as a “good girl”, this new liberated lifestyle is clearly better for her.
It’s time to see what I can do
To test the limits and break through
No right, no wrong, no rules for me,
I’m free!
With the shackles removed, she can finally explore the limits of her passion. No more rules! That means she’s free, right?
Let it go, let it go
I am one with the wind and sky
Let it go, let it go
You’ll never see me cry
Here I stand
And here I’ll stay
Let the storm rage on

She’s a grown up now. She’s has understanding now of things she was never allowed to previously explored. She boldly declares “here I’ll stay.”

Suppression is the necessary condition for deception. Women always want to feel like they’re being liberated from an oppressor.

Don’t allow God’s Word to become that oppressor she secretly craves to be liberated from.

Frame is everything.

As a Father, This Scares the Sh*t Out of Me…

Recently, my younger sister was caught doing some “bad things.”

I don’t need to go into details, but if you’re familiar the red pill, you know the kind of trouble a 17-year old girl can get into with the wrong kind of guys.

As useful as the red pill is for a man in terms of sexual strategy, there is a dark and frightening side to it: raising daughters.

My wife was angry because my sister was using her visits to our home as a safe haven to coordinate her schemes.

As for me, I didn’t feel angry because I wasn’t surprised. This was not her first time and she had no regrets. I felt sad because I was witnessing the full effect of Satan’s deception in my own family.

There was much more going on than just a girl acting out.

I explained to my wife that there were two disturbing truths we had to consider as parents if we didn’t want our daughter to go down the same path.

First, a girl becomes sexually awakened at around 13 years old. Yet our culture expects women to wait until they’re at least in their mid-twenties before marrying. If we follow that script, it means that a young woman experiences over ten years of sexual suppression between the time she craves to be penetrated by a man and when conservative culture deems it appropriate for her to be with a man.

But, as we know, most young women do not wait that long. (Or, if they do, they have many bad associations about sex that leads to a joyless marriage.)

This is an uncomfortable truth that a father should not take lightly.

Secondly, the message preached in most Christian homes is simply “wait until marriage.”

My sister had no shortage of warnings growing up. She knew anything outside of marriage was sinful.

Yet, I’m afraid all she heard was “God doesn’t want you to have sex.”

And this is precisely what Satan wants young girls to believe. It makes the path of sin all the more appealing.

Remember that Satan hates the woman. He will do whatever he can to destroy her… whether it’s robbing her of joy or leading her astray into “liberation.”

So what is a father to do?

Frankly, I don’t know the exact answers right now. As a church culture, we’ve become so uncomfortable talking about sex that I don’t know if any father knows what to do.

But I do know that what we have been doing isn’t working out well. And putting the issue off for another day is a poor strategy.

Now, I’m not denying that young women bear responsibility for their choices. But we are also called to not put a stumbling block in front of our daughters.

Because of the severity of the topic and my own ignorance on what to do, I’m adding a “fatherhood” category to my blog to chronicle any future insights I find on this matter.

6 Red Pill Questions for Serious Christians

Over at the Red Pill Christians subreddit, I came across an interesting set of questions posted by the user “Red-Curious.”

Other than my own blog and Sigma Frame, I don’t know of any other blogs that are trying to develop practical frameworks for married Christian men to use in light of red pill truths.

Dalrock and company have some good insights. But their specialty tends to be calling out feminism in the church rather than providing usable strategies for awakened men.

So the church is woefully lacking resources to help married men who have recognized and accepted the true nature of women.

But if we were to start a larger conversation, I think these questions would be a good place to start. (I’ve given my own opinions as a response.)

1. How can you reconcile the message of Christ with Red Pill Praxeology? What about Married Red Pill? Does the message of Paul and Peter change the picture?

The Red Pill is simply re-awakening us to biological truths that are suggested at the beginning of Genesis. Christ’s message was about a new kingdom, not a new biological imperative, so there is no conflict. But the marriage teachings of Peter and Paul do change the frame of red pill truths. Men are expected to take responsibility for their wives just as Christ takes responsibility for the church.

2. Why are Christians such bloop caricatures? How did we go from Warrior Knights of the Cross to this mess of de-testosteronized “men” in the church today?

My best understanding is that this is due to the cultural forces that contributed to the Nice Guy Syndrome. Men have been conditioned for several generations to seek approval from women and view traditional masculine qualities as “toxic.” This message is further reinforced in the church by the “sacrificial love” rhetoric. Nice Guys believe that if they do the right things and sacrifice more, they will get what they need. “Sacrificial love” is changed to mean doing what the wife wants… which only makes marriages worse. On top of that, most Christian men are pre-occupied with the so-called “battle of lust,” thus ensuring they will remain in perpetual state of feeling guilty over their sexual instincts and believing they are a “sinner” unfit for any significant duty in God’s kingdom.

3. Do you agree with Dalrock that feminism has invaded the churches and that more and more apostate Christians are replacing the worship of the Lord Jesus with Vagina worship?

Yes.

4. What Christian denominations have been able to hold back this feminist onslaught and why?

None that I’m aware of. Though my experience is limited to Pentecostal and Reformed denominations. Pentecostals seem to be more blatantly egalitarian. Reformed churches seem to give lip service to the abstract concepts of headship and submission. But they ignore the gritty details of the problems and fail to provide any workable advice to men dealing with the effects of feminism.

5. Can a Christian man use Dread Game with a disobedient wife?

Yes. Dread Game is about arousing a woman’s jealousy in order to reform her behavior. We learn in Romans 11 that God brought in the Gentiles in order to make the unrepentant Jews jealous. So provoking a disobedient wife to jealousy is (literally) a godly thing to do.

6. Who agrees with me that we can fix this for the next generation if we bring back the authority of a man over his family, including his wife, and children? Can we? Should we?

Agreed. First, we must attempt to do so through teaching and rhetoric. If that doesn’t work, we simply wait for our civilization to crumble so we can rebuild. Build your own household on the rock so that it does not crumble when the storm comes.

Don’t Tell Her Until the Time is Right (6 Scenarios)

In yesterday’s post, I presented a simple “equation” for identifying if your wife is ready for a radical change in her life:

Turbulent Personality + Undesirable Situation = Ready for Radical Change

Women are typically turbulent. Meaning, rather than being satisfied with her life or taking a steady improvement approach, she is likely deeply unsatisfied with herself. She wants to improve, but not gradually.

She wants immediate and even radical change.

As a husband, this desire for change could work out to your advantage: moving to a better location, introducing a new lifestyle, introducing something new in the bedroom, etc.

Or, it could work out to your detriment: a new “health” craze, a new career outside the home, going back to school for some useless degree, or, in extreme cases, even having an affair.

It’s all about timing.

When the opportunity is right, a turbulent personality will be ready to swing in whatever direction you (or someone else) provides a vision for.

In Eric Hoffer’s perennial seller, The True Believer, he describes the various “undesirable” situations that make someone a potential convert to a new cause. I’ve selected the most relevant ones and adapted them to a marriage context below.

Newly Poor

Once, when I was laid off from my job. I was surprised when my wife, almost immediately upon hearing the news, suggested that we pack up and move to another state with a better job market.

Normally it’s women who have the most emotional investment in a particular location with their relationships and getting used to the culture and all that. But compared against the pain of being newly poor, she was ready to throw it all away for a new opportunity.

A sudden economic change for the worse is a prime time to move to a new location, start a new career, or any other change that has any hope of improving your economic condition. This is the “grass is greener on the other side” kind of opportunity.

Note: This is a limited window opportunity. Once someone gets used to being poor, it’s no longer an urgent problem.

Physical Handicap

There’s an old saying, “you don’t know what you got until it’s gone.”

Suddenly, all kinds of desires that lay dormant become aroused when an ability is suddenly taken away (or threatened to be lost). The man who loses his legs desires to run. The one who is losing hearing suddenly craves music. The terminally ill suddenly wants to live life on the edge.

Obviously, you would never wish this to happen to anyone, and especially your wife. Nevertheless, handicaps can create a burning desire for what one supposedly “can’t have.” If you can find a way to let her experience what all the doctors, cynics, and “sensible” people say is impossible… you’ll have a devoted convert.

Unfulfilled Creativity

The unfulfilled desire for creative work is the most permanent undesirable condition.

The nice thing about creativity is it ties in well to sexuality. Currently, I’m reading The Genius Famine with my wife. It’s a well-researched manifesto about the decline of creative intelligence in Western culture. Since intelligence and the creative personality is (mostly) genetic, it makes sense that creative people should get busy breeding and create a home environment conducive to creativity. Plus, I’m sure I can dig up some studies about how sex enhances creativity and other such interesting things.

The unfulfilled creative woman desperately wants to escape the hum-drum busyness of ordinary life and pursue her dream of doing creative work. If she believes you can make that lifestyle a reality, she’ll be up for whatever it takes to get there.

The Unusually Selfish

All of us are selfish to an extent. But women often become so selfish that it becomes too much of a burden to bear.

The more selfish she is, the more severe her disappointments will be. Disappointments add up to self-loathing and losing faith in her own ability.

What a woman in this situation craves is therapy. She believes something is wrong with her and she wants help with all the problems in her head.

But rather than go to a traditional therapist, why not do “sex therapy”?

In simple terms, sex therapy means that you figure out what she needs and tell her while she’s going down on you or while you’re aggressively providing her “conjugal rights.” For example, “you like to feel sexy, don’t you?… You need a strong hand to guide you, don’t you?… I know what women need when they get depressed… You need a new focus in your life.” etc.

Powerful stuff.

The Opportunity Seeker

Opportunity seekers feel burdened by the fact that they are surrounded by opportunities but have failed to take advantage of any of them.

These people are the classic targets for “get-rich-quick” schemes. Unwilling to accept the hum-drum life of the status quo, these people will passionately throw themselves into the next “big thing.”

While being an opportunity seeker is not a healthy way to live, being a disciplined entrepreneur can be a rewarding lifestyle. If you can show her that you share her abundance mentality, you can provide her with the discipline she needs… perhaps even positioning yourself as her “coach” (a dominant-submissive relationship ripe for erotic play.)

The Bored

Probably the most common undesirable situation. If your wife spends all day on social media and indicates in some way that she feels her life is “meaningless”… you have a bored wife on your hands.

Many women will intentionally create drama when they’re bored. Perhaps she’ll start a fight with you. Perhaps she’ll gossip about other people’s problems. Perhaps she’ll complain about her various emotional and mental problems.

What bored women want is simple: entertainment.

Essentially, you need to become her Facebook timeline. Her mind is a blank slate longing to be filled with interesting information. Might as well make that information serve your purpose.

Is there some news story you can show her that can lead to an important discussion? An interesting documentary to watch together? Or perhaps something intriguing (and erotic) you can purchase to make her wonder what you’re up to?

As long it’s interesting and not too crazy, you can introduce her to just about anything at this time.

 

 

 

Her Pain is Your Opportunity

I’m going to tell you an unusual story about entrepreneurs… but I promise it will tie into women and sex, so bear with me.

During my professional career, I had the privilege of spending a year or so working directly for one of America’s top entrepreneur coaches. I got to sit in on several of his high end “mastermind” groups and I have personally spoken with dozens, if not hundreds, of successful entrepreneurs… some of whom owned 7-figure businesses.

Initially, I thought it would feel intimidating being surrounded by so many successful people.

But I was surprised to find that, with few exceptions, these people were riddled with self-doubt and a “still-not-good-enough” attitude.

Even my boss, who could conjure up $50K+ with a single presentation, would feel depressed if he felt he botched the pitch or didn’t reach his (arbitrary) sales goal.

My boss was a leader, not to a group of fearless business tycoons, but to a group of creative misfits and opportunity seekers with inferiority complexes. In other words, owners of successful businesses.

Witnessing this was a paradigm-shifting experience for me.

I had always assumed that the wealthiest people in society were the “alpha males.” And, to an extent, that’s true. Alpha males tend to go into sales or some kind of leadership position that allows them to leverage their confidence to earn an above-average salary.

But I’m talking about people who broke the salary barrier and made far more money than a person could spend on their own.

These people did not make money because of their confidence.

They made money because of their lack of confidence.

They had to prove to the world that they were good enough. They weren’t just a hopeless dreamer like their family and friends thought they were.

It wasn’t so much that they had a practical reason to make all that money. They were trying to escape an undesirable situation. They were misfits trying to escape condemnation.

This insecurity gave these people an insatiable appetite to “take things to the next level.” And to the next level they went… to six figures, seven figures, eight figures…

Ironically enough, it was this interaction with successful entrepreneurs that made me realize I would probably never build a multi-million dollar company. I had too much self-assurance to stay motivated.

So how does this relate to your sex life?

More than you might think.

It all comes down to understanding the turbulent personality type.

While your wife may not be an entrepreneurial type, she probably does have a turbulent personality to some degree (most women do.)

There’s a great description of the turbulent personality over at 16 Personalities:

Individuals with Turbulent (-T) identity are self-conscious and sensitive to stress. They experience a wide range of emotions and tend to be success-driven, perfectionistic and eager to improve. They are also more willing to change jobs if they feel stuck in their current one and to spend time thinking about the direction in which their life is going.

However, while the Assertive variant may seem more positive on the surface, that is not always the case – for instance, Turbulent individuals perform better in certain roles as they push themselves to achieve superior results, while Assertive ones do not care about the outcome that much. Always feeling the need to do more, to have more, and to be more, Turbulent types often forget how exhausting that can be to both themselves and the people around them – but it is entirely possible that this desire to always push themselves just a little further helps many Turbulent types to achieve what they seek to achieve.

Now, just append the phrase “in bed” to the key phrases in the above two paragraphs. Starting to see the connection?

If you have a turbulent woman on your hands, you have a woman who, under the right conditions, is ripe for a transformation.

All she needs is a vision.

Tragically, the Church has largely neglected or even condemned the utility of psychology in helping people change. Thus the door has been left wide open to feminists and other worldly-wise charlatans who have no qualms about leveraging a woman’s insecurities for a greater purpose.

It would do a man good to ponder this equation:

Turbulent Personality + Undesirable Situation = Ready for Dramatic Change

Today’s post covered the turbulent personality. Tomorrow, I’ll cover the different types of undesirable situations and how they can be leveraged.