I thought this blog post I read over at Doing Marriage Right might be an encouragement to some of my readers.
Sadly, sex does not always get off to a good start in a marriage. As the author writes:
As I’ve stated before sex for us began with difficulty. Physical pain and inexperience, with a side of an inability to communicate like adults about sex, led to disappointment for both of us for many years. We have moved past that and sex is now regular and pleasurable. I have chronicled our success in the past.
Orgasm for my wife first came with vibrators, primarily the Hitachi Magic Wand, for many years. She found oral and manual stimulation painful. She said during intercourse, she felt nothing, and if it went too long (like more than a minute or two) it became painful.
But after I read his full story, I was reminded of two important truths:
- Bad sex today doesn’t mean it’s going to remain that way… even if it’s been going on for years
- Couples can still have great sex even after decades of marriage
Sexual problems are almost entirely psychological at the root. And the brain can be rewired over time with effective communication of the truth.
The belief in change is the first step towards healing.
Read the full story here: