It looks as if the sexual market crisis is finally entering into mainstream conversation. From a recently published New Yorker article:
These days, in this country, sex has become a hyper-efficient and deregulated marketplace, and, like any hyper-efficient and deregulated marketplace, it often makes people feel very bad. Our newest sex technologies, such as Tinder and Grindr, are built to carefully match people by looks above all else. Sexual value continues to accrue to abled over disabled, cis over trans, thin over fat, tall over short, white over nonwhite, rich over poor.
Since the church tends to follow suit with the mainstream media, I suspect this will be topic of open conversation soon among Christians. But since Churchians tend to adapt secular conclusions rather than thinking biblically, I expect we’ll see a re-working of the same conclusion [emphasis mine]:
It is men, not women, who have shaped the contours of the incel predicament. It is male power, not female power, that has chained all of human society to the idea that women are decorative sexual objects, and that male worth is measured by how good-looking a woman they acquire. Women—and, specifically, feminists—are the architects of the body-positivity movement, the ones who have pushed for an expansive redefinition of what we consider attractive. “Feminism, far from being Rodger’s enemy,” Srinivasan wrote, “may well be the primary force resisting the very system that made him feel—as a short, clumsy, effeminate, interracial boy—inadequate.” Women, and L.G.B.T.Q. people, are the activists trying to make sex work legal and safe, to establish alternative arrangements of power and exchange in the sexual market.
We can’t redistribute women’s bodies as if they are a natural resource; they are the bodies we live in. We can redistribute the value we apportion to one another—something that the incels demand from others but refuse to do themselves. I still think about Bette telling me, in 2013, how being lonely can make your brain feel like it’s under attack. Over the past week, I have read the incel boards looking for, and occasionally finding, proof of humanity, amid detailed fantasies of rape and murder and musings about what it would be like to assault one’s sister out of desperation. In spite of everything, women are still more willing to look for humanity in the incels than they are in us.
“Men, women are not sex objects. The gospel has set her free from such oppression. I could tell you horror stories of husbands who emotionally abuse their wives by dictating what she should eat, telling her what to wear, and shaming her for her body. The Bible tells us that the Lord judges by the contents of the heart, not outward appearances. Some of you men are still basing your worth on how your wife looks. But Christ Jesus has freed you from such superficial standards.
“And some of you young men are complaining that you can’t find a wife. But what are you doing to prepare to marry one of God’s daughters? We have plenty of fine young ladies right here in this congregation waiting for a godly man to win her hand in marriage. But many of you men won’t man up and marry the girl because your standards are too high. Listen guys, we are all flawed sinners. She’s not expecting perfection in you, neither should you expect perfection in her. I think we guys could learn something from the compassion of women.”
Of course, the young men won’t want to marry any of the “fine young ladies” because they will be objectively unattractive. And since the church will eradicate any hint of alpha qualities out of their men, expect the small number of attractive women to marry outside the church as they go about “witnessing.”
And since unattractiveness generally correlates with poor health, expect to see those prayer lists growing in proportion to the sizes of the women’s waists.
We should always show mercy, regardless of one’s life choices. But I wouldn’t be surprised if, in the coming decades, being a hero for the truth will come down to something as historically obvious as refusing to marry and reproduce with unattractive sickly women.
A quick glance at the top 20 sites on the web reveals there is a major mismatch between what the church is talking about and what people think about:
I’m astonished that the church still hasn’t figured out the following basic truths about modern life:
- People don’t call their pastor to ask about truth or get help with personal problems. They go to Google.
- Social media feeds inform our reality.
- Most people don’t like to read.
- People think about sex more than any other topic.
- People have an unlimited appetite for entertainment.
Here are the essential 21st century skills of evangelism (in addition to understanding biblical truth):
- Search engine marketing*
- Understanding of sexual dynamics
I doubt any church will be offering training on any of these skills, so the field is wide open for anyone who wishes to scoop up the harvest.
* For examples of websites who are using search engines to evangelize check out the following two sites:
I always suspected the public school system was trying to make us stupid, but now we have the stats straight from the horse’s mouth:
(CNSNews.com) – Sixty-five percent of the eighth graders in American public schools in 2017 were not proficient in reading and 67 percent were not proficient in mathematics, according to the results of the National Assessment of Educational Progress test results released by the U.S. Department of Education.
Of course, judging by the inability of today’s preachers to simply read and explain a biblical text, I’d estimate the illiteracy rate is at least 65% in the seminaries.
I’ve written before how I think the government wants to do to American men the same thing they did to the American Indians.
Namely, rather than fight the man directly, they want to take the fight out of the man until he becomes a passive dependent suckling at the government’s teat. A recent Rasmussen report gives a hint of what might be coming next:
Senator Bernie Sanders is looking ahead to the 2020 presidential election with a proposed federal government program that guarantees all Americans a job with health insurance. Nearly half of voters like the idea.
Step 1: “We’ll take away all uncertainty and provide a job for you. Doesn’t that sound nice?”
Step 2: “Turns out there’s no longer any productive work for you to do. How about if we just give you a monthly check?”
Step 3: “Oh, you’re feeling sexually frustrated and lonely? Here, have a sex robot. It’s on us. We take care of our boys.”
Step 4: “Here’s your voting guide for the next election. We have your best interest in mind. Don’t listen to those crazy conspiracy theorists who say that we’re evil.”
While it shouldn’t come as a surprise to anyone with common sense, it turns out the fruit of our feminist society is that everyone is quite lonely:
The survey of more than 20,000 U.S. adults ages 18 years and older revealed some alarming findings:
Nearly half of Americans report sometimes or always feeling alone (46 percent) or left out (47 percent).
One in four Americans (27 percent) rarely or never feel as though there are people who really understand them.
Two in five Americans sometimes or always feel that their relationships are not meaningful (43 percent) and that they are isolated from others (43 percent).
One in five people report they rarely or never feel close to people (20 percent) or feel like there are people they can talk to (18 percent).
Americans who live with others are less likely to be lonely (average loneliness score of 43.5) compared to those who live alone (46.4). However, this does not apply to single parents/guardians (average loneliness score of 48.2) – even though they live with children, they are more likely to be lonely.
Only around half of Americans (53 percent) have meaningful in-person social interactions, such as having an extended conversation with a friend or spending quality time with family, on a daily basis.
Generation Z (adults ages 18-22) is the loneliest generation and claims to be in worse health than older generations.
Social media use alone is not a predictor of loneliness; respondents defined as very heavy users of social media have a loneliness score (43.5) that is not markedly different from the score of those who never use social media (41.7).
While the survey doesn’t say this, I think it’s obvious that separating children from their fathers, preventing boys from becoming men, and conditioning women to try to live without a man might have something to do with this loneliness epidemic.
Blackdragon paints a picture of the sexual marketplace after the rise of sex robots:
All of a sudden, all of the things men now have to do in order to have sex with a woman will no longer be required. Looking good, making lots of money, going out on dates, screwing around at bars and clubs and on dating sites, listening to women talk for hours on end, paying for expensive dates, hookers, or sugar babies, surrendering to traditional monogamous marriage or monogamous boyfriend status (in the case of beta males at least), learning game, putting up with women’s constant demands… all of that will be… gone.
Men won’t have to do any of that stuff anymore to get sex.
Again, yes, they’ll have to do that stuff to get into a serious relationship with a human woman, but that only represents a percentage of men. I don’t know what that percentage is, but it’s well under 50%, particularly when you consider that lots of men get into a relationship primarily because it’s the only way they know how to get sex (again, beta males, which represent most men). Women hate it when I say that, but it’s factually true. (I didn’t say it was the only reason these men get into relationships, I said it’s the primary reason.)
A lot of women reading this are going to assume that’s not true, and that all men want (and put up with) dating and relationships only because they want relationships. HA! Ohhhhh boy, these women are in for a fuckin’ shock in a few years when this all happens.
The pool of men available for women to marry or date in a serious relationship is going to fall by at least 75%, perhaps even more. It’s going to be a dating bloodbath for women. Women will be horrified, shocked, angry, and confused. They’re going to try to get a boyfriend or husband, and the dating sites will be barren wastelands. The typical over age 33 woman is going to make demands of a man on or before the first or second date, and even if he’s a total beta he’ll just laugh at her, leave, and go fuck his Margot Robbie robot at home, who is far hotter than her and never makes demands of him.
The church is going to be forced to face an uncomfortable reality: Christian men marry primarily for sexual access, not “companionship.” It’s a covert motivation, but a real one nonetheless.
With sexual pleasure being outsourced to machines, Christians will be forced to face the fact that women have no intrinsic value to men. It is only when a woman submits to a man and allows herself to be moulded by him that she becomes valuable.
The church seriously needs an answer to the following question:
What is the point of a man marrying a woman?
Until we return to the picture of the man as a conquering king and the woman as a submissive aid in that conquest, I doubt young men will have any motivation to marry in the future.
Sex robot builder Dr. Sergi Santos articulates the philosophy behind the creation:
“I don’t see a problem with [getting divorced]. We are not objects, and nobody belongs to anybody. If everybody in the world divorced and got a sex doll, I wouldn’t mind. I’d say, ‘if they got what they wanted, why not?’“
It’s difficult to precisely predict what will happen as a result of the sex robot trend. But one thing is certain: the church is in for a “Black Swan” event.*
Monogamy, in the current climate, is a fragile institution. The majority of men and women are unhappy and sex robots will likely be seen as a welcomed escape. (Keep in mind, there will be both female and male robots.)
The church has failed to acknowledge that women want to have sex with winners and despise losers. After decades of training men to act like losers and then convincing wives that her husband is, indeed, a loser, the church has helped create a golden opportunity for the sex robot industry.
In typical fashion, I predict that the church will continue to ignore the underlying problem. They will rail against the evils of the sex robots and double down on the “marriage is holy” rhetoric. They will especially double down on anti-male rhetoric, saying how cruel it is to women to choose sex robots. They need to “man up” and better serve their wives!
Ironically, the unintended consequences of this male bashing will be the destruction of the very institution they are desperately trying to defend. Tell men that they’re failures and sinners for long enough and they’ll eventually just give up and take the easy way out.
The only marriages that have a reasonable chance of surviving are the ones where the woman feels lucky to be married to her man. Perhaps the robot competition will help spur those emotions. Who knows…
* A “black swan” is an unpredictable or unforeseen event, typically with extreme consequences. The more confident and invested one is in the correctness of his opinion, the more devastating the effects of a black swan that proves his opinion wrong. While it’s to impossible to predict precisely what will happen, one can prepare for black swan events by identifying cultural beliefs that are held as infallible and sacred without sufficient skepticism. (For more on black swans see N.T. Taleb’s The Black Swan.)