If you’re making any of these persuasion mistakes, you probably won’t get laid very often.
In Scott Adam’s Win Bigly book, he describes 4 common but ineffective forms of persuasion. They are (from worst to less worse):
“Word-thinking” is arguing over the right definition of words. You see this played out all the time in Christian circles. Someone (often a rebellious wife) will say “submitting to your husband does not mean…” Then someone else (often a men’s rights advocate) will try to to correct her definition. This is the most degenerate form of argument and will get you nowhere. Her mind is already made up.
“Hypocrisy” involves pointing out that your accuser is using a double-standard and is committing the same “sins” she is accusing you of. Like if your wife accuses you of playing too many video games and you respond by saying she spends too much time on Facebook. It might get her to stop pestering you. But it leaves her with the impression that both of you are bad people not worthy of respect. As a woman, she probably already dislikes herself, so you are the losing party in this exchange.
“Reason” seems like it would be a good persuasive tool, but it’s not. People make decisions on an emotional level and use reason to justify the decision. You can show your wife through reason that it is God’s will that she submit her body to you sexually. But that won’t get you anything more than reluctant duty sex. Far better to develop alpha male traits that get her panties wet, then use reason to show her that God approves of such things if she has any intellectual hangups about being your “sex object.”
“Analogies” are great for explaining new ideas, but terrible for persuasion. Because analogies are so imprecise she will find plenty of ammunition to resist the idea. For example, you might think that telling her “sex is to a man what attention is to a woman” would persuade her to give you more sex. But it won’t. She can wiggle out of it by telling herself you don’t give her enough attention. Or that one dinner conversation is not worth giving a blowjob, etc.
I would venture to guess that most husbands attempt to talk their wives into sex using one of the above techniques. But they’ll never work in the long-run.
So what does work?
Four things (strongest at the top):
- Fear of missing out: her body is perishable, she has a limited window of time to experience the thrill of unbridled sexual passion
- Fear of replacement: knowing that you could get another women motivates her to work hard to keep her place in your heart
- Fear of disapproval: “I’m very disappointed in you” are probably the 5 most frightening words you can say to a woman. Anything softer than that should get the job done.
#2) Feminine Identity:
- Young vs. old
- Beautiful vs. repulsive
- Sexy vs. distasteful
- Empathetic vs. merciless
- Generous vs. selfish
- Fun vs. boring
- Stylish vs. frumpy
- What gives her a sense of worth? (e.g. fulfilling a duty, mastering a skill, making a deep connection with someone)
- What makes her like herself? (e.g. taking care of others, being flexible, standing up against evil)
- What gives her energy to move forward? (e.g. being acknowledged, a bold new challenge, finding her true self)
Whenever you _______, think about _______.
Whenever you look at yourself in the mirror, think about how I want your body.
Whenever you’re cooking me dinner, think about how sexy that is to me.
Keep this in your panty drawer and think about these ideas every time you get dressed.
Don’t waste your time with bad persuasion. Stick to the stuff that works and you might be surprised how quickly she responds.
The way I see it, a woman is always in one of three states.
The “good girl” state means she’s being pleasant, feminine, and even flirtatious. This is the “loving doe” state that every man desires of his woman.
The “bad girl” state means she is being defiant. She is not submitting to your headship and is generally making life difficult.
The “sad girl” state means she has the “bad feelz.” She is hung up on some detail that causes her to forget how good her life really is. If not handled properly, a “sad girl” can often turn into a “bad girl.”
What a lot of guys don’t realize is that sex is always the proper resolution to any state a woman is in. If a man can master each of these frames, he will master his woman.
Below, I’ve given a basic outline of each type of sex in the form of three dialogues, one for each state. For clarity, I’ve stripped out all the nuances. It’s written as if the man and woman simply spoke in logical propositions. In addition to being kinda humorous, I hope it will make the escalation process clear.
Good Girl Sex
You: “See how much better I am than other guys? You want to nurture my seed, don’t you?”
Her: “Yes I do. Let me do something sexy to win your attention.”
You: “That’s a good girl. Let’s talk about sex.”
Her: “Yes. I like this. Kiss me.”
You: “Now it is time for action. You will assume a submissive position of my choosing.”
Her: “Yes, sir.”
You: “This is what you’re going to think about while I fuck you.”
Her: “Yes, sir.”
You: “Let me check your fluids and make sure you’re ready.”
Her: “I am ready.”
You: “I’m going to use your body entirely for my pleasure like an animal. That’s what you want, isn’t it?”
Her: “Yes, sir.”
You: “I’m losing control of myself now.”
Her: “Oh, yes!”
Repeat ad infinitum. Mask the obvious with clever variations. Use physical “force” when appropriate.
Bad Girl Sex
Her: “I’m being defiant and bossy for no apparent reason.”
You: “Is this the kind of person you want to be? I’m disappointed that you would treat your own husband this way. We can talk after you’ve changed your attitude.”
Her: “I’m sorry.”
You: “Show me.”
Her: “Yes, sir.”
You: “That’s a good girl. Now get on the bed. I need to teach you a lesson so you remember who’s in charge.”
Her: “Yes, sir.”
You: “This is what you needed, isn’t it? You gonna be a good girl for me now?”
Her: “Oh, yes!”
Sad Girl Sex
Her: “I’m sad for some silly reason.”
You: “I know. But you don’t need to worry because I love you. I’ll make sure you’re taken care of.”
Her: “OK… Your hands feel so good.”
You: “Yes. Just focus on happy things.”
Her: “I am happy. Kiss me.”
You: “You know that I love you, don’t you?”
You: “Now let me love all of you.”
Her: “Yes. Give me more… more… more…”
You: “My inner beast is coming out now.”
Her: “Oh, yes!”
If your encounters with your wife aren’t resolving as you wish them to, hopefully these little dialogues will reveal the sticking point. Start by simply being aware of which of the three states she is in throughout the day. Then imagine how it should resolve if you knew what to do.
After awareness, you can pinpoint the skills and tactics you need to bring her closer and closer to the proper resolution on a regular basis.
Amidst his asshole philosophizing, the Chateau Heartiste drops another nugget of wisdom… or rather his reader “Hawk” did:
Betas acknowledge the girl’s charms prior to her acting to please, alphas do so afterwards.
Unless your wife is doing any of the following…
- Showing cleavage
- Wearing tight clothing or fashionable clothes with high heels
- Working out
- Wearing sexy lingerie or nothing at all
- Cheerfully performing her domestic duties
- Being happy and flirtatious
- Giving you head
…then it’s probably counter-productive to tell her she’s “beautiful” or “sexy.”
As a man, I like to think about sex.
So when I saw this harmless article about about ways to make boring topics seem new again… I naturally thought, “hey, that could be about sex.”
So here’s my take on 8 tactics a married man can use to get his wife excited about sex again.
Tactic #1: Use Nicknames
Telling your wife you’d like insert your penis into her vagina is rarely a good way to put her in the mood.
This is why we come up with a variety of suggestive synonyms like “cock” and “pussy.” A rooster is a symbol of aggressiveness and masculinity. And a pussy cat is something soft and sweet that purrs when you pet it.
But there are other terms you can use as well. You can tell her that her “stallion” is ready for her to ride. Or refer to your semen as “nectar.”
Or just lift stuff right out of the Bible. Tell her it’s been a little too long since you’ve tended to your “garden.” Or that you’re in the mood for “pomegranates” for dessert.
Just be sure the nicknames are appropriately masculine and feminine. Probably not a good idea to call your penis “Mr. Winkles” or refer to her vagina as a “man cave.”
Whenever you hear one good nickname, use a thesaurus to come up with more ideas:
Tactic #2: Play Erotic “Would You Rather?”
If you’re not familiar with the “Would You Rather?” game, it’s where someone presents you with two difficult (and often unfortunate) hypothetical choices. Like “would you rather be itchy for the rest of your life or sticky for the rest of your life?”
Even though the game can often get graphic and disgusting, it’s almost impossible to resist playing because it appeals to our sense of curiosity and choice so perfectly.
But you don’t have to use the game to psychologically torture you’re wife (unless you’re into that sort of thing). You can use it to get her thinking about sexuality in a fun way.
“Would you rather I secretly grab your butt in public or kiss you passionately at home?”
“Would you rather try the same sex position in 9 different different places or 9 different positions in the same room?”
“Would you rather take a shower together or take a bath by yourself and let me watch?”
“Would you rather dress up as a ‘cute’ girl or a ‘naughty’ girl?”
“Would you rather be pinned against the wall or against the bed while I give you my love?”
Starting the game is simple. Wait until you’re alone with her and have a conversation that goes something like this:
“Hey babe, have you ever heard of the “Would You Rather game?”
“No. What is it?”
“It’s simple. I’m going to give you two pretend scenarios and you tell me which one you’d rather have. Wanna try it?”
Read her some non-sexual questions from the internet.
“Pretty fun, huh? I’ll ask you some of my own as they come to me. Just to warn you though: they might get naughty, so be prepared.”
And the game has begun! And it never has to end.
You can start out with “soft” and non-sexual questions and then work your way up to more intense stuff. Just ask her whenever a new one pops into your head. There’s really no limit to the questions you can ask. The trick is to create a contrast where both scenarios would be sexy but she really has to think about which one she’d prefer.
And since it’s all hypothetical (for now) you can go a lot further than if you were asking a direct question with serious intent.
If you need ideas on how to word things, you can read some stuff at Kinky Quotes for inspiration.
Tactic #3: Use Humor
Humor and sex go well together. If you take it too seriously she will likely feel uneasy and have a hard time relaxing. But a bit of properly applied humor can help her relax and get the right juices flowing.
Even if you don’t have any natural talent for humor, there are a couple of techniques you can apply that are (almost) foolproof.
The first technique is the rule of threes. You say two ordinary things followed by something unexpected. The third thing is the punchline. In this case, the unexpected thing will be about sex.
Here’s a few examples:
She asks you what’s on today’s agenda. You tell her “Well, I need to go to my dentist appointment, drop a package off at the post office, then I’ll come home and play with my pussy cat.”
When you’re getting ready for bed: “Why don’t you put the kids to bed, brush your teeth, then put on something inappropriate for bedtime.”
As you’re eating dinner in the summertime: “There’s nothing I like more than a hot day, a hot meal, and a hot wife to serve it to me.”
When you use the “rule of threes” it makes your line more intriguing than if you just told her outright.
The second technique is ridiculous exaggeration. Here you want to take a simple sexual thought and exaggerate it to the extreme for comedic effect.
If you’re working on your computer, you can tell her that you “don’t allow women in the workplace because it always leads to sexual harassment.”
As you’re leaving you tell her “be sure to dress appropriately today or I’m going to spank you when I get home from work.”
Start examining your bed and tell her you might need to get a new bed. When she asks why, tell her you’re concerned that the springs won’t last more than a few weeks under the stress of your anticipated rough love-making sessions.
Because it’s so exaggerated, there’s no pressure on her. She’ll laugh or pretend to be offended. But secretly, she’ll blush and wonder, “Maybe that WOULD be kind of fun.”
Tactic #4: Share Sex Studies with Her
Even though sex has been around since the dawn of time, we’re always discovering new things about it. We’re also rediscovering things we forgot about it.
Research results give the impression of something new and exciting. They inspire a sense of awe in us. This is exactly how you want your wife to feel about sex.
The trick is to pick studies that are suggestive. For example, how women feel happier when they have semen in their body. Or how a woman’s “rape fantasies” really aren’t weird. Or how women feel hornier near their ovulation period.
You can also share erotic findings from the Bible. Here’s a good primer on the “good bits” from the Song of Solomon. Or show her how being a good seductress is pleasing to God.
This will all be interesting stuff to her. Because it’s about her. And it will give the two of you an excuse to launch into a new phase of erotic exploration.
Sharing this stuff is really easy. Just tell her you came across an interesting article and thought she might like to read it.
If you follow this blog, I’ll share stuff I find from time to time. Just follow the links. A little bit of Googling can yield some interesting discoveries as well.
Tactic #5: Practice “the Attitude”
Most men are timid about broaching sexual topics with their wives.
But those who develop “the Attitude” can talk about sex whenever they want. It’s difficult to explain in writing because it’s more about how you talk than what you say.
The best way I can describe it is to imagine that your wife is horny all the time. Act as if she’s the sex-hungry one in the marriage. Then you just talk about everything as if it’s making her horny.
“I know you get a little horny when you’re mad. I bet you’re getting wet just thinking about how mad you are, aren’t you?”
“I know why you take so long in the shower. You just like to have more time to think about your naughty fantasies, don’ you?”
“Now don’t tell me you wouldn’t at least want to try that! I know you’re thinking about it. I can see it on your face!”
The best way to learn the attitude is by listening to the Black Philip Show with Patrice O’Neil. Listen to all the episodes at least several times through. You’ll subconsciously absorb the parts of his attitude that are appealing to you.
Now, as a Christian I cannot fully endorse his show because at least a third of the time is spent explicitly describing his sexually immoral activities. (So obviously, don’t listen to it around the family.) But if you can filter out all that B.S., you can learn a lot by paying attention to the attitude he has when he talks to women.
Patrice was so good at the attitude that he could get away with constantly calling every woman a “bitch” to her face and still get her laughing and having a good time. Not that I recommend calling your wife that. But if you can absorb even a fraction of the attitude, you shouldn’t have any trouble talking about sexually explicit things with her.
Tactic #6: Talk About Mundane Things as If They Were Sexy
One of the easiest ways to make sex surprising is to talk about something rarely associated with sex as if it were sexy.
Here’s a few examples:
In your best smooth seductive voice: “Oh wow. I love the way you crack that egg and slowly drizzle it over the batter. Mmm yeah, baby. You know what’s up.”
“Nothing makes me hornier than tax time. Put on something sexy and let’s talk numbers.”
“I love the way you spread that butter over my toast. That’s a good girl.”
This tactic is great for two reasons. First, it will surprise her so it’ll make a strong impression. Second, you’ll be creating sexual associations with common activities. Before long, she won’t be able to go a single day without doing something in her routine that reminds her of sex.
And a woman who is thinking about sex is a happy woman.
Tactic #7: Predict Her Future
People love to hear predictions about the future. We are often dissatisfied or bored with the present. But the future is exciting. Anything could happen! Use this bias to your advantage.
You don’t want to put pressure on her to do anything now. That’s too scary. Instead you want to suggest that there is something erotic buried inside her that is going to come out one day.
For example, you can say “I think there’s a really wild girl that’s trapped inside of you. One day we’re going to set her free.”
Or if she’s a bit sassy: “You are a sassy one. But one day I’m going to break you in.”
Or as she’s fondling your manhood: “One day, I think you will grow quite fond of this most important part of me.”
The key is to find areas where there is a mismatch between a core feminine desire and her current attitude or behavior. It is extremely difficult to resist biology. Merely bringing her attention to her instincts is often enough to become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Tactic #8: Change the Visuals
New visuals are an instant way to create novelty.
Most women buy way more clothes than they need. It’s because they want variety. But you can use this preference to your advantage.
Give her a monthly budget to buy sexy things to wear. Simply the fact that she has something new to put on is often enough to make a woman feel sexy and put her in the mood.
Sometimes just thinking about what to wear can put her in the mood. You can text her and ask her if she’s found a “suitable outfit” to greet you in. Or if her panties match her outfit today. Silly stuff like that.
You can also change what you wear. Get a new look. Start working out. You’ll seem like a new man to her.
Another way is to change the scene. Try a different room. Take a retreat. Do it outside. Do it in the shower. etc. etc.
Now Go Have Some Fun!
Hopefully this gives you some ideas to get started. There’s really no reason sex ever has to seem hum-drum. There are so many different ways to think about it.
The way I see it, a man will spend more time in his day not having sex than having it. Might as well have a bag of tricks to make the in-between times more fun.
The sexual market value test for married men is ready!
A couple words of warning before you take this…
Keep in mind that this is not a test designed to flatter your ego. Expect to get a low score. It’s a tool for learning, not a means to signal your status.
Think of it like college. It’s kinda like you’re studying to get a degree in “Masculinity.” This is a tool to determine whether you can “test out” of any of the required courses. But it’s safest to assume you’ll have to start out at 0 or even take some remedial courses.
Each point on the test is like a “credit.” It takes work to earn each credit. You need to earn a sufficient number of credits to graduate at the level of masculinity you wish to achieve.
Finally, realize that this is not a knowledge test. It will be obvious what the “right” answer is. It’s an inventory test… do you have the asset or not? It does you no good to be dishonest. Nobody will care about your score. It only matters what you have in reality.
So with all that blathering aside, here’s the link:
>> Take the Married Man SMV Test Here <<
Let’s talk about a woman’s “self-esteem.”
You’ll hear all the time about how women struggle with body image, face unrealistic standards of beauty, are pressured to “sexualize” their body, etc. etc.
But there is a more intriguing aspect of a woman’s self-esteem that is rarely discussed.
A woman who thinks she deserves better is repulsive. But a woman who doubts her beauty is primed and ready for an erotic adventure.
Consider Song of Solomon 1:6:
Do not stare at me because I am swarthy,
For the sun has burned me.
My mother’s sons were angry with me;
They made me caretaker of the vineyards,
But I have not taken care of my own vineyard.
“Vineyard” is a metaphor for her body. This is a woman who knows she’s not as beautiful as she could be.
She has just met the man of her dreams and she doubts that she is beautiful enough to be desirable to him. She got so busy working for others that she neglected to put in the work needed to present her beauty as well as she could have.
She knows that the man she desires is desirable to other women:
Your name is like purified oil;
Therefore the maidens love you. (1:3)
“Will he find me pleasing?” she thinks. “He could choose from so many other women. I’m not nearly beautiful enough for a man like that. Oh, if only I had better prepared for this moment!”
It is this perceived mismatch of value that is the beginning of erotic tension.
It is a good thing if your wife expresses doubts about her body. It is at that moment of doubt that she is yearning to please you and earn your approval.
And just as you affirmed her beauty and sent her heart a-flutter when you asked for her hand in marriage, so you will reaffirm your approval of her when you take her into the bedroom… again…and again…and again…
The more attractive you are to women in general, the more your wife will doubt that she is pleasing enough for you. She will work hard to prove herself worthy of being your wife.
This is why you want to work on increasing your “sexual market value.” You want her to feel like she lucked out by the fact that you “settled” for her.
A woman who feels inferior and unworthy of her man’s approval is a woman who will dress sexy and yearn for frequent sex. She needs constant approval when she’s in the presence of a high quality man.
P.S. I’m putting the final touches on the SMV test for married men. I plan to have it up soon.
It’s not unreasonable to compare marriage to a war zone.
God describes this conflict in Genesis 3:
Your desire shall be contrary to your husband,
but he shall rule over you.
This is a conflict that the man must win. The unhappiness that results from the woman “winning” is obvious to anyone not deeply invested in the feminist narrative.
So with that said, here are what I believe are the 7 essential tools (or “weapons” if you prefer more violent terminology) that a man needs to have a sexually fulfilled, God-honoring marriage:
#1: A High Sexual Market Value
Most men think that after they get “hitched” they no longer have to think about being attractive to women. This is a big mistake. One of the biggest reason men are afraid to provide strong masculine leadership is because they are terrified of losing their wife.
The man who knows he can get a younger, hotter wife should his current wife ever go psycho and leave him or give him legitimate cause for divorce is a man who has the confidence to subdue his wife. And though she’ll never admit it, your wife will sense this and become aroused by it.
When it comes to getting laid, attraction is more powerful than “the Bible says…”
Improving your sexual attractiveness is the best framework for self-improvement and the benefits go beyond just the sexual. I hope to publish a test soon to help married Christian men estimate their sexual attractiveness. Until then, use the one at Chateau Heartiste and make ethical adjustments accordingly.
#2: Frame Control
Watch this five minute video. Realize that this exact thing happens in your marriage.
I’m not exaggerating when I say that learning to recognize and control frames will change your marriage and your life. The simplest way to control the frame is to imagine that your wife is a child.
#3: The Ability to Refrain from Compulsive Masturbation
In spite of what some Christians teach, it is clearly unbiblical to call masturbation a sin. It’s a perfectly natural thing to do once in a while if you need to relax or if you feel like a raging animal and your wife is not available.
However, if you feel the need to grab your dick and jerk yourself off every time you get a boner, this is a sign of weakness. You’ll have difficulty lasting in the bedroom. You’ll be drained of masculine energy and less likely to take risks. You’ll imagine confronting your wife like a man or dominating her in the bedroom… then you’ll chicken out at the last second or else your execution will be so flaccid that she’ll just wonder what in the hell you’re trying to do.
I don’t recommend trying to go “cold turkey” but it’s good to embrace the feeling of being “on edge.” Save the self-release valve for when boldness is really not advantageous or for when you’ve reached your limit and your wife is unavailable for you to unleash the beast.
#4: Irrational Confidence
Most men base their confidence on their achievements. That’s a perfectly valid basis for confidence. But in order to achieve a masculine pursuit (like subduing a woman) you need an even deeper source of confidence… an irrational confidence.
When you’re around your wife, it doesn’t matter how much of a loser you are objectively. Your confidence comes simply from the fact that you have balls. Your wife needs your cock. And she needs your semen. She is unable to fulfill herself. You allow her to feast upon your manhood because of your kindness.
In your household, you are the alpha male.
#5: Good Genes to Show Off
Being nice doesn’t get you laid. Neither does being a jerk. It’s all about your genes.
I think Scott Adams said it best:
A man who thinks humans are rational creatures might try to attract a woman by being extra nice. That seems reasonable because people like nice people more than they like mean people. But seduction-wise, niceness is boring, and nice people are a dime-a-dozen. Niceness can only get you so far.
A far better seduction strategy would involve participating in any kind of coed group activities at which you happen to excel. When you display any kind of talent, it triggers other humans to want to mate with you. We’re biologically hardwired to be attracted to anything that helps the gene pool, and talent is a signal for valuable genes. So instead of being nice, focus on being talented, or attractive, or smart, or muscular, or something that suggests you have good genes.
A common misconception is that because nice guys seem to finish last, and jerky guys seem to get the women, being a jerk must have some sort of seduction advantage. It doesn’t. That’s an illusion caused by the fact that people who have OTHER advantages – such as wealth or beauty – have the freedom to act like jerks because they can attract mates no matter what. If you don’t understand what motivates people at a deep level, you might be fooled by your observation that jerks often do well in romance. If being mean were useful to getting sex, you would see ugly people doing it more often with great success. But keep your eyes open and you’ll notice that attractive people can get away with being mean, and ugly people can’t. Attractiveness is the key correlation.
Even though the vast majority of sex does not lead to conception, signs of good baby-making is always the foundation of sexual attraction.
Don’t try to flaunt what you don’t have. Identify your best attributes and constantly put those on display. Sexualize your talents. Then take her into the bedroom to remind her why she once yearned for your seed.
#6: Manipulation Immunity
Never panic in the face of adversity. When you make a decision, don’t let her fears and anxiety derail you from following through. Don’t let her guilt-trip you.
Be open to negotiation without compromising your mission. And it’s always your mission. It’s your interpretation of what God wants you to do. She has the privilege of joining you on this righteous mission.
Don’t be so quick to act upon the things she feels are urgent. They are probably not.
Keep calm and carry on.
#7: Ego Control
If you’re reading this, you have an ego problem. We all do.
I’m not talking about “ego” in a Freudian sense. I’m talking about our unhealthy focus on status. It’s the need to be better than others, have more than others, be recognized by others.
Our egos are what distorts our sense of reality and prevents us from achieving our goals, sexual or otherwise. The ego craves recognition more than genuine success and real blessings.
The biblical definition of a fool, in modern lingo, is someone who lets their ego govern their life instead of wisdom.
Ego is why we talk about the “war on men” but we don’t put in the work needed to become more masculine.
Ego is why we settle for approval and recognition from others (e.g. church, parents, boss, wife) while neglecting to do what we know God wants us to do.
Ego is why we refuse to accept truths about women discovered by those with more sexual experience than us (even if those truths don’t always come from the most godly sources).
Ego is why we vent our frustrations about women without coming up with a strategy to fix the problem.
Ego is why we become bitter or even lash out at our wives rather than accepting that they may never understand us but we can love them anyways.
Ego is why we choose to settle for watching porn rather than face the initial awkwardness of trying to be a real man in the bedroom.
Ego is why we overestimate our sexual attractiveness.
Ego is why we make good intentions to change ourselves but then procrastinate. It’s always easier to watch another TV show, play another video game, or spend another half-hour goofing around on the internet than it is to accept the amount of work we have to do and learn to enjoy it.
All this and more is how ego sabotages our ability to achieve a happy marriage. (For more on the ego, I cannot recommend highly enough Ego is the Enemy by Ryan Holiday.)
Remember, it’s the fear of the Lord that’s the beginning of wisdom.
When you care more about what God thinks of you than what your wife or other men think of you, you will understand wisdom. And wisdom is the key to obtaining blessings, including the “blessings of the breasts.”
Now go forth and conquer!
NOTE: These “tools” were adapted and expanded from the principles found in the 16 Commandments of Poon.
People seem to love the idea of quick-and-easy 3-step, 7-step, or whatever plans to “saving your marriage.”
Trouble is, these plans almost never work. There are too many unknown variables and each relationship is a distinct challenge.
But I also realize that without a unified strategy to focus your actions, no progress will be made. Everything just looks like a random mess of tricks and ideas that may or may not help your marriage.
So I’d like to propose a strategy that I believe any Christian man can follow to make progress in the game of marriage. It’s broad enough to account for unique variables and differing tactics, but specific enough to provide focus.
There are 5 (roughly) sequential phases to this strategy:
- Identify her strongest desire
- Reinforce that desire through nicknames, encouragement, innuendos, and challenges
- Show her how your cock is the fulfillment to that desire
- When she signals her readiness, perform the deed without inhibition
- Continue to remove physical, cultural and mental constraints until you are completely satisfied
Of course, the “devil’s in the details” as they say. And I am deviously scheming on how best to present those details to you.
While the purpose of this blog is not to share the details of my sexual exploits, I’ll just say that this strategy is working well for me so far.
You can use this framework to organize all your own sinister schemes to give your wife the masculine lovin’ she so desperately craves.
NOTE: I know that some Christians might be offended by such an open use of the word “cock.” But I carefully chose that term for a reason. It is a good and most acceptable term in the context of marriage. This will likely be a topic of future posts.
This is a brilliant display of masculine dominance. Watch and learn.
The context is that blogger Vox Day is being slandered on social media platform Gab. Most people in his situation would either ignore the attacks or play the victim card.
Instead, Vox plays the dominant male perfectly:
Again, I will point out that it is not my intent to harm Gab. We are not requesting any damages from Gab and we do not anticipate any further legal action against them once we obtain the requested information about the parties responsible. As a number of VFM and Dread Ilk have noted, I am handling Gab with kid gloves, in part because they are young and inexperienced and they do not appear be receiving appropriate legal counsel. But I have made it very, very clear that the defamatory attacks on me are going to be removed, one way or another, and as always, I am not bluffing.
It’s subtle, but note the sub-message sent to the recipient:
- “I’m still on your side.”
- “I have control of my emotions. I’m not vengeful.”
- “You are going to submit to my request.”
- “I could hurt you if I wanted too…”
- “But I’m going to be gentle with you…”
- “Because you are naive.”
- “I have given you fair warning.”
- “You are going to stop this unacceptable behavior.”
- “I will use as much force as necessary to get your compliance.”
- “I never bluff about this sort of thing.”
Talk this way to a man and it will either anger or humiliate him. But tell a woman you’re going to “handle her with kid gloves” because of her “inexperience” and it will inspire quite a different reaction.
I don’t know how Vox Day talks to his wife. But if it’s anything like this, I imagine his wife is a happy woman.
Let’s get something clear:
The power to have a happy marriage and blessed sex life comes from within the woman.
It doesn’t matter how much you “need” sex. It doesn’t matter how often you try to rationally explain to her why she needs to change her behavior.
All you need is the desires that God has already placed deep in her heart and loins.
Without a man to guide her, these desires have no direction. She does not know what she wants. Her inner life is a state of conflicting emotions and chaotic thoughts.
Your job is to bring her focus on these desires and give them a goal. You do not create anything new; you simply channel and direct what already exists.
You are the shepherd of her womanly yearnings.
With that said, the first step is to know what these desires are. Below is a summary of the 8 desires that every normal woman has. It’s a safe bet to assume that your wife is no different.
- Work hard to earn a man’s approval
- See social proof that her man is high quality
- Subordinate herself to a worthy man’s mission
- Yield her frame to a more powerful man
- Be kept in a perpetual state of intrigue and erotic tension
- Explore her sensual imagination
- A sexual man who makes known what he wants
- Sensual, passionate and “rough” sex
Ponder these desires. Know them intimately. They will serve you well.
Don’t be fooled by what you see on the surface. A woman’s beliefs and behavior will often contradict her true desires. She needs your help to bring them out.
NOTE: These 8 desires were adapted from the 16 Commandments of Poon.