What Christians Can Learn from a Gay Black Man

I’ve never personally been exposed to gay culture. But this story told in a recent email by Antonio Cortez echoes the descriptions I’ve heard from my father:

When I was in college, I had a friend, his name was Marcus. He was in the dance program, and he was flamboyantly, hysterically GAY.

Gay with a capital G.

He was a 6’3 black guy with an athlete’s build, probably would have been a phenomenal football/basketball/baseball player, but he was a dancer.

A gay black dancer that fulfilled every stereotype you could think of that comes with a designation.

Marcus and I always got along, as I was essentially the only heterosexual male in the entire department, and being highly masculine myself, I was a definite counterbalance to pretty much everyone I was around.

And when I say got along, I mean he drove me fucking insane most of the time and he always semi joking claiming he was going to rape me.

Its hysterical to think about now, as I realize most people have never been truly exposed to Gay male cutlure, but gay men are the most sexually aggressive, promiscuous, and probably disgusting by most “proper” standards you can imagine. There is a reason the gay men carry the most STDs and use ridiculous amounts of drugs, they are constantly screwing each other and swapping partners.

Two thoughts occurred to me after I read that story:

First, it makes sense to me why God prohibited male-on-male sex in Leviticus and Paul referred to the act as “abandoning the natural use of the woman” and how they “received in themselves the due penalty of their error.” The sin, at it its root, is an improper channeling of aggressive masculine sexual energy. God intended for this energy to be directed towards a woman.

My second thought was that a man can do well with women by positioning himself in an arena where there is an overrepresentation of females and almost no masculine heterosexual men.

Anthony is an interesting alpha male. He’s a high testosterone red pilled ballet dancer who’s fanatical about fitness. Hard to beat that unique positioning. (I recommend following his daily email tips. He’s got some good stuff.)

The Source of Every Man’s Power

If you read Genesis 1 carefully, you’ll notice a pattern that has the power to change your life.

I’ve bolded the pattern below to make it more apparent:

In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth. The earth was without form, and void; and darkness was[a] on the face of the deep. And the Spirit of God was hovering over the face of the waters.

Then God said, “Let there be light”; and there was light. And God saw the light, that it was good; and God divided the light from the darkness. God called the light Day, and the darkness He called Night. So the evening and the morning were the first day.

Then God said, “Let there be a firmament in the midst of the waters, and let it divide the waters from the waters.” Thus God made the firmament, and divided the waters which were under the firmament from the waters which were above the firmament; and it was so. And God called the firmament Heaven. So the evening and the morning were the second day.

Then God said, “Let the waters under the heavens be gathered together into one place, and let the dry land appear”; and it was so. And God called the dry land Earth, and the gathering together of the waters He called Seas. And God saw that it was good.

Then God said, “Let the earth bring forth grass, the herb that yields seed, and the fruit tree that yields fruit according to its kind, whose seed is in itself, on the earth”; and it was so. And the earth brought forth grass, the herb that yields seed according to its kind, and the tree that yields fruit, whose seed is in itself according to its kind. And God saw that it was good. So the evening and the morning were the third day.

Then God said, “Let there be lights in the firmament of the heavens to divide the day from the night; and let them be for signs and seasons, and for days and years; and let them be for lights in the firmament of the heavens to give light on the earth”; and it was so. Then God made two great lights: the greater light to rule the day, and the lesser light to rule the night. He made the stars also. God set them in the firmament of the heavens to give light on the earth, and to rule over the day and over the night, and to divide the light from the darkness. And God saw that it was good. So the evening and the morning were the fourth day.

Then God said, “Let the waters abound with an abundance of living creatures, and let birds fly above the earth across the face of the firmament of the heavens.” So God created great sea creatures and every living thing that moves, with which the waters abounded, according to their kind, and every winged bird according to its kind. And God saw that it was good. And God blessed them, saying, “Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the waters in the seas, and let birds multiply on the earth.” So the evening and the morning were the fifth day.

Then God said, “Let the earth bring forth the living creature according to its kind: cattle and creeping thing and beast of the earth, each according to its kind”; and it was so. And God made the beast of the earth according to its kind, cattle according to its kind, and everything that creeps on the earth according to its kind. And God saw that it was good.

Then God said, “Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, over all[b] the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.” So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. Then God blessed them, and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”

The climax of the story is the creation of man.

First we learn what God can do… then we learn that man was created like God. Specifically, man has the power to:

  1. Declare a vision
  2. Make it happen
  3. Determine when something is “good”
  4. Define and contrast what you’ve created (what’s its purpose? how is it different?)

As a man, an image-bearer of God, you have the power to create your own reality. This is the source of your power if only you can be persuaded of its truth and persevere in your mission.

I Never Knew Law Could Be So Sexy

One of the amusements I like to provide on my blog is showing how things you thought had nothing to do with sex actually have much more to do with it than you thought.

Case in point: Latin law.

There’s an old Latin legal saying:

Exceptio confirmat regulam (the exception confirms the rule.)

I’d never given the principle much thought until I read this interesting article on Mental Floss. The saying is more insightful than I initially gave it credit for:

The principle provides legal cover for inferences such as the following: if I see a sign reading “no swimming allowed after 10 pm,” I can assume swimming is allowed before that time; if an appliance store says “pre-paid delivery required for refrigerators,” I can assume they do not require pre-paid delivery for other items. The exception here is not a thing but an act of excepting. The act of stipulating a condition for when something is disallowed (or required), proves that when the stipulated conditions do not hold, it is allowed (or not required). The general rules are that swimming is allowed before 10pm and that pre-paid delivery is not required. The fact that exceptions to those rules have been stated confirms those rules hold in all other cases.

Exceptio confirmat regulam is a foundational principle for understanding biblical laws, including those about sexuality. The biblical “restrictions” suddenly becomes more interesting. For instance:

  • If God said not to lust after our neighbor’s wife, then it’s allowable for men to desire unmarried women.
  • If Paul said it was allowable to refrain from sex on occasion in order to pray, then constant sexual activity was expected as the norm.
  • If a woman could have her hand cut off should she decide to “taketh a man by the secrets” in a fight, then the male genitalia was normally regarded as a sacred object.

As I’ve illustrated in my post on sexuality in Leviticus, God is not a prude. The exception confirms the rule.

For those who have eyes to see…

How to Be Better Than 99% of Other Men

Being the alpha male requires confidence. And confidence is largely derived from 3 personal advantages:

  1. Accurate thinking
  2. Good looks
  3. Eloquence

Reading challenging books by people smarter than you makes you think more accurately than 99% of the population.

Intense physical training makes you look better than 99% of the population.

Regular writing (or sales or public speaking) makes you communicate more clearly and persuasively than 99% of the population.

You don’t have to trick yourself to be confident when you genuinely are superior to 99% of all other men.

The 6 Levels of Sexual Awareness

Perhaps you’ll find this useful…

This is how I conceptualize a woman’s levels of sexual awareness, ranked from least to most difficult in terms of access and required skill.

 

Level 1: Horny

Description: Sex is on her mind. She is warmed up and ready to go. She’s down for anything you want to do. All she needs is an excuse.

Strategy: Make a bold move.

 

Level 2: Active

Description: She knows she enjoys having sex with you, and her sexual preferences are aligned with what you want to do, but she doesn’t feel like she wants it now. Overall, the bulk of a man’s efforts will be spent dealing with this level.

Strategy: Give her a fresh reason to think about sex. Examples include: sharing a sex study, explaining a naughty bit from the Song of Solomon, making a clever innuendo, etc.

 

Level 3: Anxious

Description: She knows that she wants to perform a particular sexual activity, but she feels unable to do it. She may doubt the idea is feasible or permissible. She may feel inadequate. She may not know what to do or how to get started.

Strategy: Prove that the activity in question is both ethical and is commonly practiced by other couples. Show her that all she has to do is trust and follow your guidance.

 

Level 4: Frustrated

Description: She is aware of the problem(s) that could be resolved by your desired idea. But she doesn’t yet know the solution. For instance, she might be aware that your sex life has gotten stale and needs more variety. Or she might feel the need to be “closer” to you.

Strategy: Tell her you want to talk about the problem or have found a solution to the problem. Dramatize the problem (i.e. share a story) so she is aware of just how serious the problem is. Then present your idea as the inevitable solution.

 

Level 5: Ignorant

Description: She is not even aware of what she is missing or won’t honestly admit that she desires it. To broach the topic directly would be offensive or threatening.

Strategy: Frame her current situation in such a way that she feels like she’s missing out. Indirectly bring attention to what she lacks. Playfully tease her about secretly wanting certain “naughty” things.

 

Level 6: Repulsed

Description: She is consciously opposed to the idea you’d like to propose. Even mentioning the topic in a serious manner could cause her to hurl all kinds of accusations at you or feel like the relationship is in jeopardy.

Strategy: Expose her to stories, art and experiences that re-frame the desired activity in a positive way. The trick is you have to make these exposures indirectly. You don’t want to trip her defense system. So you need to place these exposures in a larger context (ideally something about exploring her needs and desires) so they feel “incidental” rather than loaded with an agenda. For example, if you want her to get into oral sex, don’t just read her the Song of Solomon passages about oral sex. Go through the entire book as a broader study of biblical sexuality so that it’s not threatening.

The effectiveness of your sexual strategy depends on her state. Match your approach to her awareness level and you might be surprised how well things “click.”

 

The Sexual Revolution 2.0 is Coming…

Blackdragon paints a picture of the sexual marketplace after the rise of sex robots:

All of a sudden, all of the things men now have to do in order to have sex with a woman will no longer be required. Looking good, making lots of money, going out on dates, screwing around at bars and clubs and on dating sites, listening to women talk for hours on end, paying for expensive dates, hookers, or sugar babies, surrendering to traditional monogamous marriage or monogamous boyfriend status (in the case of beta males at least), learning game, putting up with women’s constant demands… all of that will be… gone.

Men won’t have to do any of that stuff anymore to get sex.

Again, yes, they’ll have to do that stuff to get into a serious relationship with a human woman, but that only represents a percentage of men. I don’t know what that percentage is, but it’s well under 50%, particularly when you consider that lots of men get into a relationship primarily because it’s the only way they know how to get sex (again, beta males, which represent most men). Women hate it when I say that, but it’s factually true. (I didn’t say it was the only reason these men get into relationships, I said it’s the primary reason.)

A lot of women reading this are going to assume that’s not true, and that all men want (and put up with) dating and relationships only because they want relationships. HA! Ohhhhh boy, these women are in for a fuckin’ shock in a few years when this all happens.

The pool of men available for women to marry or date in a serious relationship is going to fall by at least 75%, perhaps even more. It’s going to be a dating bloodbath for women. Women will be horrified, shocked, angry, and confused. They’re going to try to get a boyfriend or husband, and the dating sites will be barren wastelands. The typical over age 33 woman is going to make demands of a man on or before the first or second date, and even if he’s a total beta he’ll just laugh at her, leave, and go fuck his Margot Robbie robot at home, who is far hotter than her and never makes demands of him.

The church is going to be forced to face an uncomfortable reality: Christian men marry primarily for sexual access, not “companionship.” It’s a covert motivation, but a real one nonetheless.

With sexual pleasure being outsourced to machines, Christians will be forced to face the fact that women have no intrinsic value to men. It is only when a woman submits to a man and allows herself to be moulded by him that she becomes valuable.

The church seriously needs an answer to the following question:

What is the point of a man marrying a woman?

Until we return to the picture of the man as a conquering king and the woman as a submissive aid in that conquest, I doubt young men will have any motivation to marry in the future.

Whither Shalt a Man Disperse His Fountain?

Yesterday, I claimed that the “sealed fountain” in Song of Solomon 4:12 is a reference to female ejaculation.

earl responded by pointing out that Proverbs 5 has similar language in reference to marriage vs. adultery. (The popular interpretation of Song 4:12 is that it’s a reference to female chastity.) This reminded me of something interesting I came across a while back…

Proverbs 5:16-17 has long been a difficult passage for translators. It’s typically rendered as something like:

Drink water from your own cistern,
And running water from your own well.
Should your fountains be dispersed abroad,
Streams of water in the streets?
Let them be only your own,
And not for strangers with you.
Let your fountain be blessed,
And rejoice with the wife of your youth.

But the Hebrew does not literally say that. (You can see for yourself here.)

It was changed into a rhetorical question by the translators because they couldn’t make sense of it as a straight statement. They assumed that a man’s “fountain” should NOT be dispersed.

But the Stone Edition of the Tanach, edited by Rabbi Nosson Scherman, renders the passage as follows:

Drink water from your own cistern and flowing water from your own well. [Then] your springs will spread outwards, streams of water in the thorough-fares. They will be yours alone, strangers not sharing them with you. Your source will be blessed, and you will rejoice with the wife of your youth.

While the conclusion remains the same (don’t sleep with an adulteress), the meaning behind the conclusion drastically changes.

Solomon is not simply saying adultery is bad. He’s saying it’s shameful for strangers to share your seed (e.g. your “springs”, your “source”). It is better to channel your springs into your own wife, so that you keep what is yours.

A man who is “fruitful” will visibly spread his seed (offspring) throughout the kingdom. But to produce bastard children would be a shame to your seed.

Your seed and your identity are bound together. You are only bringing shame to yourself by planting it in foreign fields.

Same conclusion. Different meaning.

The Squirting Fountain

Christians are taught to interpret biblical sexual references through a restrictive filter.

We always assume the text is emphasizing a negative (something to be held back), when a common sense reading would indicate a positive (something to be released.) Here’s an example of such passage:

A garden enclosed
Is my sister, my spouse,
A spring shut up,
A fountain sealed.

-Song 4:12

This passage is traditionally interpreted as being a reference to the bride’s virginity. The “spring” and “fountain” would presumably be a metaphor for her sexual passion. She has “sealed” and “shut up” this passion for the sake of her wedding day.

While the Bible certainly advocates virginity, it’s doubtful this is what the passage is referring to.

Two reasons:

First, the context of the passage is describing lovemaking in the act. It’s not about anticipating the wedding day.

Second, the allusions in the Song of Songs refer to concrete sexual functions, not abstract concepts like “passion” or “sexuality.” There are a lot of references to fluids and the satisfaction of releasing said fluids.

So, with a bit of detective work and dirty thinking, I think we can easily decode this passage.

What is the “garden”? Perhaps this illustration will help:

Image Credit: Jacqueline Secor

Now, inside this garden is a spring, a fountain. It is sealed and shut up.

Knowing that Solomon had “wisdom and understanding beyond measure, and breadth of mind like the sand on the seashore” (i.e. nothing on the internet would be surprise him) …

I can find only one sensible conclusion:

The “spring shut up” and the “sealed fountain” is nothing less than the elusive g-spot and “squirting orgasm.”

Sex Robot Inventor on Marriage

Sex robot builder Dr. Sergi Santos articulates the philosophy behind the creation:

“I don’t see a problem with [getting divorced]. We are not objects, and nobody belongs to anybody. If everybody in the world divorced and got a sex doll, I wouldn’t mind. I’d say, ‘if they got what they wanted, why not?’

It’s difficult to precisely predict what will happen as a result of the sex robot trend. But one thing is certain: the church is in for a “Black Swan” event.*

Monogamy, in the current climate, is a fragile institution. The majority of men and women are unhappy and sex robots will likely be seen as a welcomed escape. (Keep in mind, there will be both female and male robots.)

The church has failed to acknowledge that women want to have sex with winners and despise losers. After decades of training men to act like losers and then convincing wives that her husband is, indeed, a loser, the church has helped create a golden opportunity for the sex robot industry.

In typical fashion, I predict that the church will continue to ignore the underlying problem. They will rail against the evils of the sex robots and double down on the “marriage is holy” rhetoric. They will especially double down on anti-male rhetoric, saying how cruel it is to women to choose sex robots. They need to “man up” and better serve their wives!

Ironically, the unintended consequences of this male bashing will be the destruction of the very institution they are desperately trying to defend. Tell men that they’re failures and sinners for long enough and they’ll eventually just give up and take the easy way out.

The only marriages that have a reasonable chance of surviving are the ones where the woman feels lucky to be married to her man. Perhaps the robot competition will help spur those emotions. Who knows…

* A “black swan” is an unpredictable or unforeseen event, typically with extreme consequences. The more confident and invested one is in the correctness of his opinion, the more devastating the effects of a black swan that proves his opinion wrong. While it’s to impossible to predict precisely what will happen, one can prepare for black swan events by identifying cultural beliefs that are held as infallible and sacred without sufficient skepticism. (For more on black swans see N.T. Taleb’s The Black Swan.)

Sex Makes You a Better Leader

I recently read a fascinating observation in Napoleon Hill’s The Law of Success (published 1928):

The brain of a human being may be compared to an electric battery in that it will become exhausted or run down, causing the owner of it to feel despondent, discouraged and lacking in “pep.” Who is so fortunate as never to have had such a feeling? The human brain, when in this depleted condition, must be recharged, and the manner in which this is done is through contact with a more vital mind or minds. The great leaders understand the necessity of this “recharging” process, and, moreover, they understand how to accomplish this result. THIS KNOWLEDGE IS THE MAIN FEATURE WHICH DISTINGUISHES A LEADER FROM A FOLLOWER!

Fortunate is the person who understands this principle sufficiently well to keep his or her brain vitalized or “recharged” by periodically contacting it with a more vital mind. Sexual contact is one of the most effective of the stimuli through which a mind may be recharged, providing the contact is intelligently made, between man and woman who have genuine affection for each other. Any other sort of sexual relationship is a devitalizer of the mind…

…all of the great leaders, in whatever walks of life they have arisen, have been and are people of highly sexed natures.

…The most effective alliances, which have resulted in the creation of the principle known as “The Master Mind,” have been developed out of blending the minds of men and women. The reason for this is the fact that the minds of male and female will more readily blend in harmony than the minds of males. Also, the added stimulus of sexual contact often enters into the development of a “Master Mind” between a man and a woman. 

In my experience, I’ve found this to be true. Sexual contact makes the female mind pliable and capable of completely blending with (i.e. submitting to) a man’s purpose. Under the right conditions, it is possible for a man and a woman to be in complete harmony.

On the other hand, I’ve found it impossible to achieve a state of total harmony with other men. We can get along fine and agree on the big picture. We can come together to achieve an immediate goal. But stay together long enough and discuss philosophy or strategy and there’s bound to be differences of opinions.

Take this blog for example. I highly doubt any of my male readers agree with everything I write. It’s in a man’s nature (and to his advantage) to be disagreeable to an extent.

(Perhaps this is why God considers it “an abomination” for a man to attempt a sexual union with another man; there can be no harmony like between a man and a woman.)

Women, on the other hand, are capable of cult-like devotion to an authority figure. The correctness of his ideas depends on his power, not his reasoning. Ideally this authority should be her husband. But she’ll eventually find someone or something to fill the void if she perceives her husband is unworthy of respect.

And sex doesn’t just help women. You’re helping everyone. You recharge your mind and become more confident, making you a better leader to other men.

It really is in the community’s best interest to encourage lots of sex.

If you’re having difficulty figuring out the steps to take in order to increase the quality and quantity of sexual contact, you can check out the plan I’m using for mastering the art of wife seduction.